Types of Love
Psychological & Physiological Theories about Types of Love and Nemesysco’s “Voice Love Detection” Technology
"How do I love thee? Let me count the ways" -in this famous line, Browning poetized one of the most engaging tasks for researchers on love. Almost every one of them has developed his or her own typology of love.
1. Liking vs. loving
In his book Liking and loving, Rubin (1973) pointed out a common ground of love and liking: both being attitudes that a person holds toward another person; both being invisible packages of feelings, thoughts, and behavioral predispositions within an individual. However, the content of love is not the same as that of liking. Love is composed of three elements: attachment, caring, and intimacy.
"Attachment" refers the powerful desire to be in the other's presence, to make physical contact, to be approved of, to be cared for.
"Caring" is the willingness to sacrifice oneself for the sake of the other person.
"Intimacy" is the union and bond between these two individuals, i.e., the sexual relationship. This arousal can be detected and identified through various parameters of speech and can be seen using the Love Detector technology.
What makes liking different from loving, according to Rubin, is its emphasis on evaluating the other person. That is, we like some one only if we think of that person as good intellectually and morally, and worth our respect. Through empirical procedures, Rubin has developed scales measuring love and liking, which provided support for his theory. The behavioral manifestations can also be detected through various parameters of speech of which profound and deep excitement is the central variable.
2. Companionate vs. passionate love
To Hatfield and her colleagues (1978, 1988), the two basic types of love are passionate love and companionate love.
"Passionate love" is defined as a state of intense longing for the union with another and a state of profound physiological arousal. This physiological arousal is also manifested and controlled through the perception of the recipient. All these activities are controlled by cortical activity and translated into speech when the individual is excited.
"Companionate love" is the affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply entwined. It is believed that passionate love, based on a human bio-physiological system shared with other primates, is a powerful emotion that can be both blissfully positive (when love is reciprocal) and despairingly negative (when love is unrequited).
Companionate love, on the other hand, is achieved only between partners who are able to positively reinforce each other's intimate behaviors. Although most people hope to combine the delights of passionate love with the security of companionate love in a single relationship, actually to do so may be impossible, according to Hatfield.
3. Bio-Physiological Love
We have all experienced the phenomenon of emotional events and how they sometimes play havoc with our physical experiences. We experience and perceive a frightening event and often we end up shaking like a leaf. The same applies to experiences and expressions of love. Men and women react differently to “love” and this has been shown in many research projects over the years. The triphasic linear model which was the predominate paradigm does not apply to women as it does to men. However, there are numerous physiological responses that are observed when two people have an attraction for each other. The color of the lips tends to redden and the pupils of the eyes dilate. The voices are also indicative of what the person is feeling. If the feeling is genuine, the emotion in the voice cannot be hidden. Just like the peacock “preening stage”, people try to make themselves as appealing to the other sex as much as they can. These same phenomena occur with animals as well as with humans. What we are discussing here are the behavioral manifestations of passion and heightened emotions. Nemesysco’s Love Detection Technology can identify these manifestations through its ability to analyze voices that exemplify increased excitement and concentration. These two parameters contribute significantly to the Main Leading Frequency.
Nemesysco’s unique voice analysis can detect and identify arousal and emotions associated with love and is accurate more than 90% of the time. Reiterating, even though our words may say one thing, our voices “give us away”. This is the key. No matter how hard you might try not to show your true feelings for whatever reason, Nemesysco’s technology will eventually succeed and identify those real love feelings.